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The female brain is biologically shaped by hormones which influence emotion, bonding, and perception from birth through old age.
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This is something I kind of started touching on last night when I was talking about the evaluations that I did with the guys that I took out in the field – the guys who were learning how to date and how to interact with women.
One of the things that I mentioned over and over is that a lot of times guys don’t seem to understand that women are actually humans, but they’re not the same as men. Men and women are hugely different. And so that’s what we’re going to talk about tonight.
You hear me talk about MGTOW all the time, and those guys just get beat up in the courts and in relationships – it’s really bad. Unfortunately, they weren’t paying attention through the changes that their wife’s body goes through, the way that she thinks. All of that stuff changes as the relationship grows, as she grows, as she matures. And if you’re not paying attention, you’re going to step on your dick, and when you do that, it’s just over.
So that’s my thing. I’m saying yes, MGTOW guys, I get it. What you guys went through is horrible. It shouldn’t be that way, and I certainly hope that your work is going to fix some of this stuff. It’s definitely spreading awareness. But at the same time, don’t give up because you made a mistake the first time.
Women really are like rocket science. It’s not a joke – you’ve really got to pay attention. The guys who pay the most attention have the best luck. The guys who don’t pay attention? You read about them on MGTOW forums.
Understanding the Female Brain Through Science
Today we’re going to be talking about how a woman’s hormones shape her thoughts, moods, and desires throughout her life.
Hormonal fluctuations throughout a woman’s life create distinct phases that require different relationship approaches. Men who understand these patterns report 40% lower relationship conflicts and deeper emotional intimacy. The payoff is that learning to read her stress signals early prevents relationship crisis and positions you as her emotional safe harbor during difficult times.
This is kind of a flip on the way that a lot of people look at things. A lot of guys think that they just have to kind of deal with a woman and put up with her. But what if you flipped the way that you think so that you’re actually her protector? You’re there for her. She is your charge.
The Strategy of Preeminence in Relationships
Back when I first started this Easy Path Project live stream, I was talking a lot about Jay Abraham. He’s really had a lot to do with me deciding to do this project because a lot of the things that he talks about are the way that I did things or try to do things.
One of those is the strategy of preeminence. The idea is that if you’re in a business and you have a client, that client should be able to think of you as his absolute most trusted advisor. It’s your job to take care of him, to make sure that he gets the exact situation that he needs out of this. That is your responsibility.
That’s how you got to be when you get a girl. You can’t half-ass it. The secret is that women really like a guy who makes them feel good. So if you make a woman feel good, she’s going to want to keep you around. She’s even going to cut you some slack when you’re making mistakes if you’re standing there being the man for her and making her feel like she wants to feel as a woman.
This part’s not rocket science. The women’s brains part is rocket science. The taking care of the women is not.
Welcome to White Knight Wednesday
In case you haven’t noticed, this is White Knight Wednesday. This is when we talk about women and thinking about them. In the past, I’ve been accused of being a white knight. So rather than run from it, I’m letting my white knight flag fly.
If you’re a dumbass, you’ll skip this stuff. If you’re smart and you want to have good relationships and you want to get what you want to get out of those relationships, this is how you’ll do it.
The Female Brain: Core Concepts
What we’re talking about is based on a book called “The Female Brain” by Dr. Louann Brizendine. If you watch women, you notice the changes that they go through throughout the month, throughout the years, throughout her life – especially with your mom or aunts or daughters. You see all these differences, but as a man, you’re clueless.
You don’t realize that she is almost exclusively driven by her hormones. It might be difficult to think straight because you’re having to deal with all the hormone stuff that’s like noise. You’re hoping to get a signal, but you got all this noise that’s causing you to be totally confused and not able to focus.
This book highlights the roles of hormonal influences and discusses sexual drive, empathy, emotion, and verbal communication research on how hormones and brain chemicals shape women’s thoughts, emotions, communication behaviors, and perceptions throughout different stages of life.
One thing that amazed me is to find out that there are six or eight stages that a woman goes through where her hormones drastically change – from being a young girl to being physically mature in the sense of reproduction, then as she gets older, becomes a mother, after she becomes a mother, and then goes into menopause later in life. The different hormones and biological factors all add up so that she’s almost a different person for each of those phases.
That’s another reason that you have to be on your toes. She’s going to be changing all the time, and you’ve just got to keep your eyes open. You’ve got to be aware.
Key Differences Between Male and Female Brains
These biological factors give rise to recognizable differences between the average female and male brains, especially in relation to social connections, emotional processing, conflict resolution, and relating.
Women’s brains are shaped by estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, and oxytocin in ways that are different from men. The female brain prioritizes communication, emotional connection, and relationship maintenance.
This connects to what I discussed the other night about Dr. Deborah Tannen and her book “You Just Don’t Understand.” The idea is that men and women communicate differently. So if you communicate like a man to a woman who is communicating to you like a woman, there’s going to be confusion. The conversations aren’t going to meet or match, and it’s going to be very frustrating.
Women typically have larger areas dedicated to communication, emotion processing, and memory of emotional events. A lot of this is because they have to take care of children and they have to be very eagle-eyed constantly. They’ve got to be watching and they’ve got to see what’s going on with the child both physically and mentally, and then she’s got to be able to communicate that. Men are not like that.
Social Dynamics and Interpersonal Connections
The female brain is generally more attuned to social cues, facial expressions, and interpersonal dynamics. Think about how guys, especially as you get older, your friendships kind of fall to the side. A guy might only have a couple of friends that he kind of knows, but it’s pretty rare that he has a close-knit group.
Whereas women are generally grouping and they are constantly talking about the interpersonal dynamics of their social group and all these things. That sounds really foreign to men because it is, but to a woman, that’s what life is – other people and how she fits in with them, how she interacts with them, how she feels about them.
Life Stages and Brain Changes
Hormonal changes during puberty, menstruation, pregnancy, motherhood, and menopause dramatically alter brain function. For example, prolactin, oxytocin, and other hormones reshape the brain, creating heightened states of alertness, worry, and an intense focus on the baby’s needs, which can sometimes come at the expense of the romantic partnership.
This is why things happen. Her brain actually changes. When she becomes a mother, her brain physically changes so that she can be a better mother. A lot of dudes slack off after they get a girl. They think, “Okay, well I got the girl, now it’s easy.” No, it gets harder. But then when we’re talking about adding kids, it’s so much different. It’s learning the woman all over again.
The problem is that no matter how much she could love you more than anything on earth, except those kids – those kids are actually like part of her. They are of her. So you can’t ever get between that, and you got to take a new position.
I think about people way before this kind of information existed – how they did it. I saw family members dealing with things, and now as I’m reading these books, I’m like, “Oh, I get it. This is why this happened because my grandfather didn’t think about this aspect of my grandmother’s hormones.” Thank goodness we have this information now.
The Key Concepts in Practice
Hormonal Influence: Hormones are the primary architects of a woman’s daily reality, influencing mood, energy, libido, and perception. There are about six phases of her life, and each one has a different set of hormones, so it’s different challenges that you as a man would have to deal with.
Neuroplasticity: The female brain is not static. It physically changes in response to these hormonal life stages. She’s a different person – you are too. Think about yourself at 11 and 21 and 31 and 41 and how drastic the differences were. Well, she’s going through even crazier ones because she’s doing the physical aging thing just like you are, but her brain is also changing because of her hormones.
You can’t be lazy and have a happy relationship. You’ve got to realize that you got to put some effort into this. If you put the effort into it, it’s going to pay off, but you’ve got to take that first step and be proactive.
Communication Differences
Women tend to have more active verbal and emotional centers, using talk to process emotions and build intimacy, where men might use talk more for reporting facts and solving problems.
Think about it – if you ever tried to listen to a woman tell a story, a man can cut it down to just the basics, what you need to know, and then you get on down the road. But a woman will tell you all of these other facets, and the guy is sitting there going, “Why are you telling me all of this stuff that doesn’t have anything to do with the bottom line?”
But if you’re thinking about it from the woman’s perspective, because her brain is soaked in these chemicals and the brain itself is wired so that she’s more social and her relationships mean something different to her, all these different things matter. If she’s telling you that kind of stuff and you’re just like, “Okay, well when you get to the point, I’ll be here,” that’s a problem.
Connection is the Key
The female brain is evolutionarily and chemically biased towards creating and maintaining strong social and romantic bonds. The woman’s brain when she’s in the mate-forming relationship phase and the mating phase is actually predisposed to forming those bonds with you as her partner to raise the children.
She’s actually on your side, and if you don’t do anything to mess it up – which is kind of what happens because we’re not aware of what we need to take care of because the girl’s not going to tell us because she can’t (she doesn’t know how to speak male) – when she’s dealing with this stuff, it’s your job to kind of sit there and be her rock.
The nice thing about that is if you’re presenting yourself as that guy – the guy that’s going to be there for her, to take care of her, to do the things that she needs done – then she is actually genetically predisposed to forming a strong bond with you. If you keep on your toes and deal with each of the phases that she goes through, then it’s going to make it a lot easier for you to have a long, happy relationship.
Moving Forward
Understanding that forming and maintaining a relationship with a woman is an ongoing dynamic process means you need to stay curious, attentive, and adaptable. The pickup part is fun, the young relationship part is fun, but those kind of things that got you to that point are not enough to get you to the next part, which is a long-term relationship.
Get your head wrapped around that and realize that if you put any effort into this, you’re going to benefit. You’re going to find that it pays off significantly.
The bottom line is that every single one of us is going to be one data point better because of what we’re learning here. That’s my little gift of sunshine for the day.
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