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The Easy Path Project Live Stream #03

Do You Want to Feel Better About Yourself Instantly? Easy Inner Game Wins (Part 1)

Hi, this is Michael from the Easy Path Project, and tonight we have a really good topic: Do you want to feel better about yourself instantly?

Over the last few nights, we’ve been discussing the TE philosophy and the idea behind it – where each step you take to improve yourself works on multiple different levels. It doesn’t just work on one thing; it works on others too. It’s a force multiplier that I call the theory of exponential growth.

Tonight, we’re talking about how you can make yourself feel better instantly.

The Problem with Our Internal Voice

One of the biggest problems people face is that our internal voice – what we say to ourselves – sometimes isn’t constructive. We pick up things along the way that might not be true, accurate, or might be too harsh. Yet our brain applies these to our situation, making us think things are worse than they actually are simply because of how we frame them.

In the near future, we’ll discuss the lens through which you see the world and how you’ve developed it from birth until now. You’ve stacked all these lessons and things you’ve picked up along the way, one on top of the other, and it keeps you from displaying who you really are. These confusing ideas obscure the reality of your situation.

You’re dealing with incorrect assumptions about many things. Once you start eliminating these incorrect assumptions or assertions about yourself – the negative things you say to yourself – you can actually wake up each day feeling truly good about who you are because you’re not beating yourself up anymore.

The Benefits of Change

When you eliminate these incorrect assumptions and assertions, you’ll find that you become more honest. The real you starts to show through, so you feel more genuine. Less pressure and effort are required to go about your day because you’re not dealing with all these additional pressures you’re putting on yourself.

What’s really cool is that this is a very simple habit involving simple shifts that I’ll explain.

Easy Inner Game Wins: Part One

I’ve compiled a list of inner game tips that will improve your inner game with relatively little effort. Tonight, I’m covering numbers 1 through 10. You’ll see how easy this is and how you can start applying it. Once you do, you should see improvement in your life and how you feel about yourself relatively quickly.

These are very simple things. Don’t expect elaborate tasks requiring tons of discipline, work, or effort. This is the Easy Path Project – we do everything the simplest, easiest, most comfortable way possible.

1. Speak to Yourself Positively

Whether you tell yourself “I’m fat,” “I’m stupid,” or any other derogatory thing – ditch that stuff. It’s not helpful, it’s not true. Instead, say things that are positive, that make you feel better, that reinforce the positivity in your life.

The idea is to get yourself feeling cool about yourself. The cooler you feel about yourself, the cooler other people will feel about you. It’s a self-reinforcing loop – each time you get better, they treat you better, then you feel better, then they treat you better. You see how this works.

Practice positive self-talk instead of negative thoughts. Consciously tell yourself positive things. One thing I’ve been doing lately is thanking myself for avoiding situations. Instead of feeling bad about myself or a situation, I flip it: “Thanks for handling that so I didn’t have to.”

2. Focus on Your Strengths

Acknowledge what you are good at. Some people are funny, some are good at math, some excel at sports. Hang onto that one thing and make the most of it.

I was talking to someone about the old band Taco, who put out “Putting On the Ritz.” Taco is still out there performing that song and made an entire career out of it. They weren’t the best band in the world, but they had that song and took it to people. You have something you’re good at – really make the most of it and knock it out of the park.

3. Set Small Achievable Daily Goals

Find things you haven’t been able to accomplish in the past and figure out small steps you can take to improve your inner game. Each day as you work through them, this will help increase your confidence and foster a growth mindset.

For example, I once helped a gentleman who, due to a religious upbringing, wasn’t comfortable talking to women. We started with very simple things like looking at someone across a park and smiling – nothing more, nothing less. We worked our way up from there, and by the end of our work together, he was getting really good results. We had just eased into the situation through small daily goals.

4. Limit Exposure to Negativity

Sometimes I’m a news junkie, but most news is crap. Most media writes stories to keep you agitated, mad, and off balance. I think the media is doing us a disservice. When I consume too much news, I get grouchy, and it affects how I see things, act, or speak.

This applies to negative people or negative situations too. If you have approach anxiety and keep hammering on approaching with bad results, those bad results reinforce the negativity causing your problems. Avoid these things. Focus on your strengths, focus on the positive, and limit your exposure to the negative.

5. Practice Gratitude for What’s Going Well

Sometimes things can seem tough and put you in a bad mood – maybe you got in a fight, received a bad grade, or made a mistake at work. It’s easy to overlook that even though some important things went wrong, a million other things happened perfectly in your favor that day.

You might not recognize them because you take them for granted or don’t take time to understand what’s happening. You let the bad overshadow the good. Even though one thing went bad, a whole bunch of really good things happened for you that day, so on the whole, it was a good day.

Take a moment to think about the sun coming up, flowers blooming on trees, your favorite song playing on the radio on the way to work. Once you start looking at the world through a lens where you’re looking for the good, you’ll start to see more. The more good you look for, the more good you’ll see.

6. Engage in a Relaxing Hobby

This doesn’t mean playing video games or scrolling the internet or social media. Detach from those things and do something like reading, putting together a model, collecting stamps, or painting furniture. Find something that allows you to pull away from your common daily life and step aside to be with yourself, relax, and decompress without worrying about everything else. This is time for you to enjoy being with you and doing something you enjoy.

7. Get Enough Sleep

I’ve been doing a lot of research on sleep over the last several months, and my sleep is getting really good. When you’re lacking sleep, it causes cortisol to increase, your brain functions differently, and you can’t access certain parts of how your brain works.

If you take time and effort to study how to sleep well and set up your sleeping area properly so you feel comfortable and well-rested, you’ll find you start to feel better. This improves your mindset and provides better emotional resilience.

8. Hydrate Regularly

Drink a lot of water. Most people are dehydrated most of the time. Dehydration can affect your mood, energy level, and body chemistry. I don’t think you need to drink 64 ounces a day – that’s overkill and your body isn’t designed to process that much water. But you definitely need to drink enough so your body is healthy and hydrated.

9. Spend a Few Minutes in Nature

Turn off the TV, PlayStation, and phone. Detach yourself from digital chains. If you can get outside and look at a tree, take off your shoes and walk through grass. Humans are part of nature, and while houses are natural in a sense, we come from woods, fields, grasslands, or savannahs. When you keep yourself apart from nature in the modern lifestyle, you’re disrupting your humanity.

Get an opportunity to go out and reestablish yourself. Relax and take some deep breaths at the park, marina, or playground. Get out and enjoy some sunshine and fresh air – you’ll feel a lot better.

10. Listen to Uplifting Music or Podcasts

When I was a moody teen, I used to listen to moody teen music, and it just reinforced my teen angst. If you’re feeling grouchy about your situation, don’t listen to things that will keep you in that place or dig you deeper.

A lot of modern music is demotivational. If you listen to lyrics or podcasts that aren’t positive and uplifting, you can’t expect to feel positive and uplifted. At some point, you have to decide: Am I serious about wanting to feel better, or am I going to keep going the way things have been?

Drop the demotivational things – the crummy music, videos, or social media content. It’s poisoning you from the inside. You can still listen to beats on Spotify or YouTube without the negative lyrics. If you want to listen to rap, maybe go back to stuff from the 70s, 80s, or 90s when they had fairly positive messages.

Wrapping Up

By cultivating a strong sense of self-worth, confidence, and mental resilience, it doesn’t require arduous effort or difficulty. These are little things applied consistently and made into habits. Each day, build these into your routine and let them grow, making changes in your body, mind, and spirit.

This will be a situation where you’ll blow your mind with how easy it is and what kind of results you get from the efforts you make.

What to Look Forward To

Next time: Easy Inner Game Wins Part Two – another 10 items you can apply to see benefits pretty quickly and with minimal effort. We’re not lazy; we’re just efficient. We want to make sure we do this with the least amount of effort or pressure – easy, easy, easy.

Pick some of these ideas and apply them in the most gentle, easy way. Don’t beat yourself up over it. At a certain point, these things will start happening naturally because why not? You have this opportunity to feel better about who you are and how you present yourself to the world.