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The Easy Path Project Live Stream #12
Is your biggest obstacle the story you tell yourself?
Hey, welcome to the Easy Path Project live stream! Tonight, we’re discussing whether This is a continuation of what we covered last night, where I gave about ten examples of how things you’re carrying from the past can still hold you back—now and into the future. If you address these issues, you’ll find yourself unburdened and able to move forward more easily and gracefully. You’ll feel better about yourself and experience a real sense of lightness.
We’re Born Pure, But Pick Up Baggage
When you’re born, you’re like a pure, clean, unblemished snowflake. But as you go through life, you pick up lessons—many of which are actually harmful or plain wrong. As a kid, you may not understand the messages you received and you interpret things incorrectly. For whatever reason, you carry those interpretations with you, until they become obstacles in your adult life.
The good news: it’s not that difficult to let those things go. The Easy Path Project isn’t about “everything is hard, you must grind, you must be disciplined and motivated, and it has to be painful.” Instead, we focus on finding what’s holding you back, letting it go, and then moving forward unburdened.
The Components of Inner Game
Low self-worth is one of the key parts of what I call your “inner game.” Along with self-esteem, confidence, authentic self, and true self-expression, these are all crucial. I’ll actually make a short video soon breaking down the nine components of inner game and explain how they work together in what I call the Exponential Growth Theory.
The idea is that if you improve any one of the nine pillars, you start pulling up the others. This makes personal growth much easier—and faster—because you’re improving from multiple directions at once.
Take self-worth as an example: low self-worth tends to create desperation, which women instinctively find unattractive. We talked last night about “the ick”—that feeling people get if you’re acting needy or unsure or not approaching things head-on. Women gave us a great shorthand with that term, because desperation is probably the biggest turn-off.
Emotional Control: You Run the Show
Conscious emotional control is about realizing your feelings are choices, not uncontrollable forces. For example, if you feel your temper rising but you don’t lash out, that’s emotional control at work. You can apply this to all sorts of problems.
One cool way to visualize this is to think of “first-person” versus “third-person” in video games. Pull back into the third-person perspective during tense moments—that is, see yourself from the outside. If you notice yourself feeling nervous or shy or introverted, that’s okay. Once you can simply see those feelings for what they are, you stop letting those feelings control you. You’re in control, not your old programming.
Turn Self-Criticism Into Self-Compassion
Most of us are our own biggest critics. If you’ve got perfectionist tendencies, you probably beat yourself up over mistakes, too. But once you start controlling your thoughts and feelings, that self-criticism can transform into self-compassion. You’ll cut yourself some slack, putting less pressure on day-to-day performance errors or awkward mistakes. If you can forgive and encourage others, why not do it for yourself? When you know you’re not going to attack yourself, it is so much easier to be confident and move forward.
Why Do I Feel I’m Not Good Enough To Get a Girl or Relationship?
That brings us to tonight’s theme. Every weeknight at around 7:30 pm Central, I run this stream as a sort of “guys’ club” for growth-minded men. It’s a support group to help us all achieve things—whether it’s confidence, career, or finding the relationship you want. For years, society has pushed the idea that you must be a “rugged individualist”—but real progress happens when people help one another. The lone wolf doesn’t make it in the long run; people thrive in community.
If you want to be part of this community, I invite you to contribute to the chat. Share your stories, victories, or even struggles, and we’ll help each other out. No one achieves greatness alone. And if you miss a live stream, check out the Easy Path Project YouTube channel—there’s a playlist with chapters so you can find the bits that are most relevant to you.
Manifestation: The Practical Version
I enjoy some of the “woo-woo” elements of personal development—like manifestation and the law of attraction. But I’m also practical. Manifestation isn’t just hoping and wishing; it’s about preparing yourself for the thing you want. Want to be a lawyer? Study, get your degree, so that when a job comes up, you’re ready. Want a great relationship? Become the kind of guy who would attract and keep a woman like that.
Honesty with yourself is crucial here. If you’re not the man you’d want your dream woman to meet, that’s where the real work lies. The path is: become the guy who would naturally have the result you desire.
Obstacles That Hold Men Back (and What To Do About Them)
Let me list out a few more common stumbling blocks and ways to overcome them:
- Worrying About What Others Think. People think about themselves far more than they do about you. Most are as self-conscious as you are. Don’t assume others are judging or looking for you to fail.
- Acting Desperately or Seeking Approval. Don’t try to seek a woman’s approval—this comes off as needy and will make you less attractive. True self-worth doesn’t need external validation.
- Lacking Social Skills or Feeling Anxious. The digital age has made it easy to avoid real conversation. Try low-stakes “practicing”—talk to strangers, cashiers, or baristas in another town to get comfortable interacting without the fear of long-term embarrassment.
- Not Having a Clear Sense of Self. Don’t compare your real life, with all its struggles, to the highlight reels you see on social media. Most people are projecting a persona, not showing reality. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself, not on meeting others’ standards.
- Missing Human Connection. Feeling lonely, longing for intimacy, or just not receiving enough positive attention can be painful, but it often comes from old stories or misunderstandings. Practice letting go of past hurts and be open to new types of connection.
- Lack of Clear Life Purpose. Don’t get overwhelmed by thinking you need a grand “life mission.” Set small, achievable goals—get in shape, learn a skill, meet new people—and let your vision expand as you grow. As you accomplish things, your sense of purpose will grow naturally.
- Past Criticism or Lack of Love. If you grew up feeling unloved or criticized, remember: others aren’t perfect, and often, their actions were more about their own issues than about you. Practice forgiveness—for yourself and others—and let go of the need to get validation from the past.
- Fear, Indecision, and Perfectionism. Approaching others (like potential partners) is hard if you make it feel monumental in your mind. Drop the idea that every interaction must be perfect. If you mess up, laugh and move on. The sooner you let go of needing perfection, the easier things get.
- Feeling Left Behind. Life isn’t a race. Everyone moves at their own pace. Men, especially, have more time to figure things out than you think—don’t compare your timeline to someone else’s.
- Believing There’s Always Someone Better. Comparison is the thief of joy, especially if you’re comparing yourself to people’s social-media highlight reels. Focus on your unique strengths and keep growing from where you are.
Forgive, Let Go, and Move Forward
If any of these things speak to you, start letting go of the toxic stories you’re carrying. I give you permission—right here, right now—to stop letting them burden you. You’ve put up with these anxieties long enough. It’s time to begin the next chapter: feeling better about yourself, growing, and becoming the full version of who you’re meant to be.
If you find this helpful, leave a like, comment with your thoughts or stories, and share with others who might benefit. Subscribe and hit the notification bell if you want to join these live streams (Monday–Friday, 7:30 pm Central). I hope to build a real support group where we can chat, help each other, and grow together.
Coming Up: White Night Wednesday!
Tomorrow night, I’ll share 20 reasons why a girl who’s actually into you might still not date you—it’s not always about you, and understanding these reasons can bring a lot of relief. When you stop attaching extra meaning and value to things beyond your control, everything gets easier.
Thanks for showing up and spending your evening with me. If you’re lurking, say hi sometime—I’d love to get a real conversation going with you. See you next time, take it easy!